How easy is it to express your innermost feelings, emotions and expectations to others?
Generally, we all think people are what they say or what they say is exactly what they want or if they don't say anything then we conclude that this is what they want based on who we think they are, based on what (we think we know) they like and what they don't. Take any relationship that expects transparency and pure love.
It is, quite fair, to expect that we learn to tell our close-ones, clearly, our expectations, disappointments, love, care, likes, dislikes, dreams and aspirations. But, are we all the same? Do we all have the same level of confidence on others? Sometimes, the person may be in a meaningful and close relationship to us, but we would barely know them. What would happen in that case? We may have to be honest and open about our feelings to them but how do we do that if we know them only for a few months or even few years? What if we are all not at the same level of comfort? Each one of us is different, having been through varied experiences, having met very different people in our lives, the person we are is defined by our childhood environment and all the other situations. All of us differ in the way we perceive others, the time we take to trust new people or even the ones we know for many years. Sometimes, we might be scared to express with the fear of hurting the other person or with the fear of being a burden or a trouble to them. I know and have heard many times, that we will never be a burden to our loved ones. But is it really true? Say, we ask for something and they are on a financial or emotional constraint at that moment. For the love they have for us, they might go to any extent to fulfill what we asked for. But is it fair? No one is really at fault but end of the day, is it really fair on our part to have asked for it or on their part to have gone through the pains to get that done when they could have just explained they can't? When you are a person who gets these questions every time someone asks you what do you want, will you freely express? And, if you don't, does that make you a weak person or an understanding individual. Let's assume, that it makes you a very understanding person. When you are one, is it too much if you expect your partner or parent to understand your inability to express and ask you the right questions with the right supporting information to do what you like and slowly give you the confidence to freely express and still not feel like you have troubled them. Is it too much hard work for them to identify your best medium of expression and give you the freedom and space to express it through that mode, be it in writing, or on call or in person?
Now, let's assume that it makes you a weak person. Again, if it is our significant other or our parent, is it too much of an expectation to help you gain the strength to still voice out what you have in mind? Will you not do that for them if they happened to be you? At least, I would. Probably, if we all try be more responsible towards our relationships and take sincere efforts to help each other, things would just work out easier than before.
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